I (28F) have been married to my husband (31M) for six years now. We’ve been through a lot and have helped each other grow everyday. I recently have been doing a lot of therapy and have began letting things of my past go. My husband is more of a grudge holder and doesn’t see the point in working on some of his trauma. It’s almost been a year since I truly felt I could somewhat connect with him. I’ve brought it up, even couples counseling, but he’s very stubborn and seems to be stuck in his ways.
I don’t know what to do. Whatever we have between us is not the same, not in a good way. I feel like we’re watching each other as tides pull us in opposite directions; we can see it happening but can’t do anything. I don’t ever want to let go, but neither of us are happy anymore.