We all like to say that, for romantic relationships, “chemistry” is important. After the first date or the first few dates, we see if we “click” or not.
But would you say chemistry is important in male friendships too? I’m 30 male. There are other guys at my workplace who seem like friend material. We see each other everyday, share similar interests and educational background. I’ve asked them out to lunch, coffee, and drinks occasionally, but despite all our similarities, I just don’t “feel” it. It’s not like they’re bad people or I hate them. On paper, scientific formulae would suggest we should be best friends, but there’s just not “chemistry”.
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That’s another word for compatibility. Which is important in any kind of relationship.
Of course there is more than just similar interests to friendship…chemistry or compatibility has many different facets. But gut-check yourself first to make sure that you are not being overly “picky” or competitive. And keep giving them chances, sometimes meaningful friendships develop over time.