How long does ideal intercourse last for you and why?

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1. It depends at least half an hour. After that depending on the time we have the more the better

2. Until I’m satisfied and then he is. However long it takes. Stressful times usually take longer.

   But like, real talk, we both bussanut. Cuddle a bit. Then either go to sleep or get up.

   Been married 14 years. Together for 17. Best time we’ve ever had in bed had been in the last year!

3. I’d say 20-46 mins. Long enough for everyone to be satisfied but not so long that it’s annoying.

4. I have no idea. If I’m keeping an eye on the clock, the intercourse is far from ideal.

5. Long enough until we’re both satisfied.

6. 30mins – 1hr

   I want it to last long enough for both of us to be satisfied, but I also want to still have enough energy to cuddle or go on with my life afterwards.

7. Minimum 20 minutes, less than that doesn’t fulfill me.

8. In a perfect world, until we both feel satisfied with lots of foreplay, different positions and multiple orgasms. Reality is usually however long it takes to get off quickly & then we go to sleep or get on with our day.

9. 5 mins, 10 tops

10. Around 20 minutes, sometimes twice in a session though. I don’t like sex to be overly long but that’s still plenty.

11. LESS THAN 15 MINUTES FOR SURE THE REASON IS I JUST DON’T LIKE DOING IT FOR VERY LONG .WE CAN ALWAYS DO IT SOME MORE LATER

12. 5 minutes. I’m either going to orgasm within that time or I’m not. And after maybe 5 orgasms, the whole event is overstimulating.

13. Ideal? Minimum 20 minutes including foreplay and at least 3 positions. Max 45 – 60, with more time dedicated to things other than PIV. Longer is better because I prefer to take the time to make sure we’re both thoroughly satisfied and to have a really sensual experience and intensify our bond.

    These days a <10 min quickie often has to suffice because we have very young kids… Quickies don’t usually get me to orgasm though so I tend to feel sexually frustrated after and I’m left wanting for a longer session for the rest of the day.

14. 20-30 mins

15. Minimum 5mins  Maximum 15mins

16. Minimum 20 min, max 45 min.

17. 10 minutes. Too long and you risk feeling raw.

18. When we had 1 kid and daycare, hours. Now…anywhere 5-60 min. It’s usually until we feel intimate again. It’s not as frequent anymore and we also take breaks now. Like 10 minutes, a cuddle, start again, repeat. It depends on how tired we are.

19. 5 minutes actual, but like another 5-10 min of kissing and cuddling beforehand /after

20. 3-5 minutes. Any longer makes me sore.

21. Under 10 minutes, foreplay included. I don’t have the attention span for anything longer than that.

22. 15-20 is ideal. It gives time for a couple positions and is long enough for both people to get off.

23. I feel sheepish…..3 hours? I like those all day/nights sessions 🙊

24. For actual intercourse no foreplay included in timing 10 minutes is great. 15 maybe, after that I’m wondering what’s wrong.

25. Intercourse? Depends.

    I mean ideally, on average, a sexual interaction would last around an hour (intercourse being the shortest part because I get sore fairly quickly). But I have definitely enjoyed a long edging session for more time than that. I think my husband had me going for 3 hours once just playing with me without taking a break. And sometimes we will just take mushrooms and start and stop sexy shit for hours.

    Sometimes i enjoy a hot quickie, sometimes i just want to play together for a while. But I tend to enjoy everything surrounding intercourse more than the act itself. And I really enjoy intercourse. I’d say we only have PIV half of our sessions. And it usually lasts 20ish minutes.

    We’ve been together a decade and obviously don’t have children.

26. Actual intercourse, my ideal is 15-20 min. Too much longer and I’ll be sore. But the whole thing start to finish, I want at least an hour, but 1-2 hours is ideal. Kissing, cuddling, kinky stuff, breaks to chat, foreplay, all that good stuff takes time.

27. However long it takes until we’re both happy. We’ve gone everywhere between 5 minutes and several hours of pretty continuous sex. Guess which one happened on the kid free vacation and which one was during lunch when we were both working remote?

28. When we’re both finished

29. 7-15 minutes, there’s been nights we’re animals and go for hours, and there’s been skirt over the hips and 2 minute quickies. But 7-15 includes a little foreplay, a couple positions, some slow, some fast and we both finish

30. Until my brain has melted enough that I have to retrain myself how to breathe and walk..

31. 10 minutes max if it’s just PIV.. or as long as we’re both satisfied

32. A 40 minute round trip – foreplay, intercourse. Ideal.

33. Ionno, we usually last 2hrs and maybe a few minutes more?

34. To be completely honest, I’m bored after 10 mins.

35. It’s fascinating to see the variety! So far I’ve seen answers ranging from 3 minutes to 2 hours.

36. I think most people its 20mins and upwards to

    Depends on the build up, had a (f)ONS ask for help doing some fake housework. It played out like a plumber porno skit, we both lasted for many hours

37. We videotape ourselves sometimes, so I can safely say PIV on its own is usually 15-20 min. However apart from that we do quite a lot of kinky things (rope, spanking, giving each other lap dances etc) which can take a while.

    There are also times when I manage to make him cum in 2 minutes when I ride him, which I take as an absolute win.

38. A couple hours? Less about the time it takes and more about being intimate together and both feeling good and emotionally connected

    Like we had some great all night long lovemaking sessions, but we’re busy moms now and more than a couple hours is going to leave us too tired to be up early with our toddlers and baby

39. 10 minutes because my husband and I are usually dodging kids and that’s enough time for me to get mine and he get his. We’ve been married for 7 years this year and our sex life is top priority for both of us, so we’re extremely efficient even when life doesn’t give us much opportunity to make it happen.