ive been with multiple people and ive only had two partners that have gone soft during sex.
the first partner i had, we had incredible sex for months until suddenly he kept losing his hard on. i tried going down on him, playing, masturbating, etc, but he just stayed that way. idk if it was him or his loss of attraction towards me, but sex felt embarrassing after that. like he wasnt into me anymore. we were having relationship issues and sex was the last thing we had, and even then it wasnt enjoyable anymore.
the other guy that im really into now only went soft for a few seconds and ngl that crushed me. took me back to my ex, but he was up and moving again. idk.
i know everyone is different but even having a partner go soft for a few seconds crushes my self esteem. so what can i do to not let that happen?