Not an English speaker.
So i’m with Dylan (fake name) since 4 years and between us everything was always fine.
We have a great relationship, never had any big argument or fight, always loyal and trustfull.
We share the same interests, hobbies and passions. He always made me feel special and unique with surprises, small and spontaneus acts, he is super sweet and romantic.
So until 2 years ago everything was fine even during intimacy and i never complained about anything. Our work is going extremly well, no money problem, we are living together in his new house so no stress from work, money and between us.
But then, out of the blue, 2 years ago everything changed and i stopped having intimacy with Dylan. He is a really gorgeous guy, pretty jacked with muscles and abs, we eat healthy and he even helped me to reach my best shape ever. So i’m extremly attracted to him physically and so this isn’t a problem.
Since we couldn’t find the issue of my low libido i made all the possible medical exams to try to find out what is wrong with me. But again i’m perfectly healthy, no issues and nothing wrong.
So i tried for a therapist to find out if it was something mental that was blocking me but after 4 months the therapist told me that i was fine and had no unsolved issues.
During this time we had intimacy like 2 times in 2 years and Dylan was suffering it a lot. Infact he become more angry and frustrated about this situation. We finally went to the couple therapist and she only told us that we have a different vision on intimacy. I don’t see it as a big issue but he obviously yes so she suggested that if my libido don’t grow again like before we should break up because cause it could cause many arguments and tension between us.
So now i’m stuck in this crappy situation. We absolutely love each other but this thing is a real big issue and is causing problems. I don’t want to break up with him cause i really think that he is the one for me but he on the other side says that this situation is freaking him out.
So advices please? What should i do? We really have to break up?
TL:DR; I(28F) don’t know what to about my low libido and my bf(29M) is frustrated about this situation.