Background information I’m in the army and I’m engaged. I (25 F) always pass my PT test, but I often fall short when it comes to height and weight standards and last I did tape I failed. I weigh 141 pounds at 5 foot tall and I often joke about how chubby I am because I’m short and stout, and my coworkers and my superiors have often made comments about it, which usually doesn’t offend me as long as it’s light hearted it isn’t always. I’ve been called obese by some of the guys at work with, and they often tell me that I should lose weight or that I need to. But when I’ve mentioned this to my fiancé, he often gets upset and says that I shouldn’t be so hard on myself, and I don’t need to worry about my weight to the extent that I do I know it’s because he loves me and he doesn’t want me to feel bad about myself, but is he enabling me to have excuses to not make the changes I need to. It’s not that I eat unhealthily or don’t exercise obviously but since I joined, I gained weight because I used to not eat at all and now I have to eat once or twice a day in order to be able to keep up the energy I need for PT and other activities, but I feel like there’s more I could do to manage my weight advice please