Please read this before you say: write to her you d*mb F*ck
So I (M20) have always been rather academically focused, rather shy and for some awkward but socially rather active guy. Today I had a Seminar at my uni where everyone can come voluntary and learn about machinery on models. I was suddenly with two girls that I have previously met back in October but briefly. We learned the subject together and I made some jokes… Then a close female friend of mine came. The two girls then left and as a friendly gesture I called them by their names (Lets call them Jenny and Laura). Laura then asked me my name, ashamed that she forgot it (which is REALLY unusal and hard to memorise). After about 5 mins that they left, someone touched me on the back: It was Jenny. She handed me a piece of paper with her name and number. She said that it is a shame that we don’t know each other well at the uni and She would be glad If I would join her and Laura when learning. I said I would happily join then she looked at my close female friend and said you can come too of course…
I don’t know **when and how** to write to her in order to come off as too interested (which I am not) or too cold ( I thought she was cute).
PS: Something like that never happened to me so I was a bit shocked. And yes before you ask: the close female friend is my female BFF (her bf is one of my oldest friends…)
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Pass it on to me.
Ask her out on a DATE!
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Ok this is what you’re gonna do.
You know what area she lives in. Pick a place that’s halfway between you and her, find a bar/coffee shop/park/ something casual, pick an evening, and ask if she’s free that time for that.
She’ll either say yes, in which case it’s next step; no, I’m not free that time, but… So you find a time where she’s free; or she’ll say nothing, and you move on.
Do not: pick a restaurant, cinema, theater, etc. These are too formal or you’re expected to be silent or both. Your goal is to be in a place where you can talk to her and learn about her.
This is where you confirm the selection phase, both of you. If you have major criteria (stuff you’re looking for in a partner that you’re not willing to compromise on, say, wanting children) that are still unclear, get them out of the way as fast as possible.