Relationship advice needed
My (26F) fiancé (29M) cancelled our wedding one week before the ceremony. He said he had been having a built up of a nervous feeling over the past three months and he finally decided he can’t go through with it. He said he feels like getting married would mean that he is “trapped” for the rest of his life. He decided he wanted a short break so I went to stay with my parents.
Four days later he texted asking me if I could come home and that he misses me and loves me. He has arranged to see a psychologist/counsellor. Chiefly, he wants to figure out (i) why this happened; (ii) does he not want to marry at all or just not want to marry me; (iii) does he still want to have kids at all or is it just that he doesn’t want to have kids with me.
Thought it might be worth mentioning that he has always told me he wanted a family previously and this is all coming as a surprise for me. For context, we have been dating for the past 3.5 years.
How should I be feeling about this? What should I do next? Should I continue living with him while he figures this out? Should I go on a long holiday somewhere else while he figures this out? Should I just leave him for good once and for all?