A bit about me, 22(M), I’ve been played multiple times by girls, nothing new, part and parcel of the game. So definitely I have my reservations when it comes to dating and girls.
Recently I started dating again and I met this girl who really confused me. As in she was so girlfriend material to the point I don’t even know what to feel.
Off the surface, she’s not the prettiest or cutest, but cute enough for passerbys to take a second glance. Her family is rich, but she’s well mannered and polite. Dosent flex her money, and is actually very generous with it.
Her personality is really interesting too. During a movie I held her hand and ever since then she’s been grabbing my arm wherever we go. When I asked her why, she said it’s because her love language is touch and she feels safe when she’s with me.
She constantly updates me of her whereabouts, and when she’s out drinking or clubbing she constantly texts me to tell me she’s ok despite me saying “please stop texting me and go enjoy yourself”. I was afraid that she would expect me to do the same, the constant updating. So I asked her “do you expect me to do the same?” And she said no she dosent. I explained that I could never do what she does, and she said it’s okay, she does it because she wants me to know where she is, and that she’s ok.
She takes really good care of me too. Like a mom… And I heard that’s a big sign that a girl likes you. Etc when I hurt myself in the gym (drew blood) she would insist that she cleans my wound and went out of her way to buy medical stuff such as tape to treat me. I really didn’t need it and I explained to her I was ok. But she still did it anyways. (Sidetrack: her treatment didn’t do much lolol it’s quite funny, but it was sweet).
But I’m just really confused because, she seems really perfect. She reassures me, she take cares of me… But yet I’m really hesitant to even continue dating her. I feel very weak. I’m not used to all that I’m feeling.
I’m not used to having a girl who cares for me snuggle in my arms and tell me she feels safe with me. I’m scared I’ll hurt her or break her heart. And it’s not like there’s no guys chasing her, there’s quite a couple.
I don’t like feeling worried for her when she goes drinking (I don’t tell her not to go, I just tell her to stay safe) but I really don’t like being not in control. I hate that there’s now an additional factor to my emotional and mental state. But yet, thus far, she’s a really good date.
Its the first time in years where I don’t know how to express myself. And I dislike this feeling.
*TLDR: To those who have found love too good to be true, how isit going? How should I be thinking and feeling about the aspect of having an additional variable to the reigns of my emotions?*
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Did you check your ego?