This is probably a stupid question, and I know there’s no longer “mine and yours” in marriage, but I just can’t get used to the concept and it’s making me crazy.
My husband’s birthday is coming up, and I’m struggling on what to do. I am a stay at home mom, and he is the source of income for the family. I have access to his accounts to use as I please, but getting him a birthday present from his own account makes me feel strange. I’ve been out of work for about a year now, and I’m still struggling with the fact of not having my own income. I know we’re married and it’s now “our” money, and he says the same thing, it’s just weird to me. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? What did you end up doing? He told me not to get him anything, but I want to, I just can’t really surprise him this way.
I don’t know why this seems like such a weird concept to me, I just can’t get around the fact I’m using his bank account to get him a present. I don’t think I’ll ever get used to not having my own money, I’ve always been extremely independent so depending on my other half is new to me. I always feel bad spending money of his, even though he’s never made me feel like I can’t. I have a credit card of his that he pays off each month, but I still feel like I need to ask before I use it even though he constantly tells me I don’t have to. This is probably an issue I need to work out, I just wanted to see if anyone else has felt similarly.