i’m struggling to move on from a recent breakup. We met organically and he was all in since day 1, regular communication asking lots of deep questions really seemed interested in me. He talked about marriage early and we realised we’re compatible in pretty much all values and the future. He talked about getting engaged. He met my friends and family and had plans that he was going to propose within a few weeks officially. We were long distance but we facetimed and we had a few in person meetings which were nice. We talked everyday and we had a really nice routine going. He told me a couple days before it ended that he has no doubts about me or us.
I noticed that as the serious talk started, he became a little more joky with me. He said now we’re comfortable with each other there’s no need to impress each other. He made fun of a career decision that I made and said it was stupid and I’d regret it. Everyday he would respond to something I’d say with are you stupid are you dumb are you losing your memory, he’d say this is all a joke. I told him I prefer it when he doesn’t do that, he’d stop for a little bit but he still carried on another day. He said he likes to push the limits on how far he can go with people jokes wise. He was supportive at times and did say some nice things too.
We met again finally and although I was shy initially it felt comfortable. There was no awkwardness. He didn’t see too happy though and was constantly complaining about something or another. He seemed happier with talking to our friends than to me. He once let a door slam in my face by walking ahead of me. i asked him what the issue was and he said nothing and then when asked again he said he suddenly doesn’t feel anything. He said he’s upset because he wanted things to work but they didn’t. I since removed him off all social media to move on. I’m struggling with a few things: whether I did something wrong to put him off so quickly (literally overnight), and how he wasn’t willing to work on things and made a set decision overnight. I’m stuck and I want to move on but he seemed like the perfect match for me. I have one issue. He was so interested and 100% since the start, consistent since day 1. I’ve never had that before and I’m scared I never will again. How do I move on?