My husband and I decided what we’ll both chip in and do something together for valentines and anniversaries. We’re done with surprises. We just get plain gifts on birthdays now. We’ve done plenty of over the top gestures over the years.
So this time around I kept asking what should we do. He kept saying “let’s see.” I asked several times. After that I let it be because I thought he was planning something and I didn’t want to nag him. A few days ago he was making some goodie bags for a kids party. He got nice chocolates for them. While he was telling me what he got I asked him where’s my bag since all the contents of the bag were nice. He got fake mad at me and told me I shouldn’t have asked and that I ruined his surprise. All in a laughing playful manner. I got quiet and anticipated it later that night but he didn’t give it to me. I thought he was saving it for V.day since it was in 3 days.
So I ordered some chocolates for him. I wanted to keep it low-key. Made some chocolate covered strawberries and ordered his favourite food. We had a nice dinner. I brought the strawberries for dessert and gave him the chocolates while we had coffee after dinner. It was all nice and intimate and wholesome. All this time I was expecting my bag of said goodie bag. I was also hoping he’d put something nice in it be it a handwritten card since the goodie bag was supposed to be for kids.
When he got home today he bought a rose for me, our 2 year old daughter and his mom. He gave me the rose along with everyone else. He also got a red heart balloon for the baby.
I put the children to sleep and we were just hanging out and it was almost time for us to sleep too so I finally asked if he got me something. He said he didn’t he was busy today and didn’t had a chance to go. I still thought he was messing with me so I let it slide. We get in bed and I ask again if he seriously forgot and he said he thought of getting chocolates but got really busy. I knew he had a busy day today but he had so many days to go and get something. When I asked about the goodie bag he said he was messing with me about that.
He’s sleeping rn and I’m incredibly sad. It would have been nice to get something. is it wrong of me to be upset when I put in effort and he didn’t do anything at all. We’re in a very happy loving relationship. Our life is good. But I’m very upset about this. I just wish he had done a little something. A simple flower given to me in public with the rest of the crowd. I thought I deserved better. Makes me feel silly now for doing all that and putting myself out like that.