I find that there’s some sort of disconnect with others and I where they’ll ask me what I think about them/ their actions/ a situation they’re in, and when I say it, it is received as advice or solution offering —which they don’t want. And I’m clearly not understanding how to engage in conversation. I’m not sure what the problem is honestly and maybe someone here can help or experiences the same thing.
More explanation:
When listening to strangers or acquaintances, interactions typically go much smoother than when I’m speaking to friends. My friends feel that I’m judgmental and can be condescending or not understanding, even though I always thought I was showing empathy. I think what would I want someone to say if I was talking about this, but I think I want to understand an issue and change it naturally. Others seem to want to dwell on it and for me to listen, but I guess I truly don’t understand the point in talking and witnessing someone speak about an issue they don’t want to change. I really don’t think I’m better and find that people are easily harsher with me than others but when i talk to them everything i felt i was saying with love is received as judgment. Maybe this is unclear, does anyone else ever resonate in any way? What should I change in my listening and understanding?