A very short back story. Ive never been super interested in sex. I have no history of sexual abuse or rape but for a very long time I was convinced I was Asexual due to the fact I never thought about sex, didn’t really enjoy it and never touched myself.
My relationship before my current boyfriend was great, lots of love and respect. I had no interest in sex, three years together and I didn’t care much for it at all. Don’t get me wrong, it was good.
My current boyfriend, I crave him all the time. We’re way past the “honey moon phase” in a sense, my love hasn’t changed for him at all but Jesus Christ. As time goes on I genuinely crave him, his touch, his everything.
I understand we’re still young and have a good sex drive and that but I’ve never been one to enjoy giving head, it took me a lot to get into that mood, but with him I actually want to, ALL THE TIME. It’s getting bad to the point I get frustrated, we won’t even be in the same room/house and it’s all I can think about. It actually ruins my day, my patience goes to shit, I get angry, snappy, all emotional and I’m really upset with myself, I want sex 2-3+ times a day, I want to give him oral every time we aren’t busy, it’s taking over my brain.
Our relationship is by no means lacking sex, we have sex every night unless one isn’t in the mood or not well. I’ve never forced him to do anything, I don’t guilt him or take any of my anger out on him if he’s not interested please don’t think I am, I’ve asked and double checked and made him promise to tell me if I ever cross that line.
Im just confused really.
Can you be addicted to sex with one person? I know having a sex addiction is a horrible thing and ruins relationships and peoples lives but i’m just struggling. I just constantly think about giving him head, I don’t even really want/expect anything back…
All honesty his sex is no magical thing, it’s amazing but I can’t say his outshines anyone else’s, so it’s not like I’ve just finally gotten good sex.
Im just looking for advice because i’m terrified of making him uncomfortable, unknowingly making him feel like I’m forcing him to let me do that to him, I don’t know. Thank you so much for reading, have a good night friends of Reddit!
EDIT: we’ve been together for a year and a half! Living together since our 3rd month mark, sorry for any added confusion!