Lately my friends have been saying stuff like “you’re a mean person” and when i ask them to explain or contradict what they say, they go “no you just are.”
i don’t understand why they would think that, and i really don’t want to be considered a mean person. I try to be nice to everyone. the only traits that i think people could associate with meanness would be that i’m blunt and that i can get annoyed easily when i’m tired.
i’ve tried to be a nicer person and someone with a lot of friends while in college, but it seems like no matter what i do people think differently. (in high school people would say i was mean, but that’s because i was miserable in high school and probably projected that externally).
please help