Me and my boyfriend were both complete virgins, like beyond actual sex. Whenever I give him a BJ he says he’s scared one of us will get an STI, but I’ve never had relations with anyone else and neither has he. Is he right? Is that something that can happen? If he’s not and that’s not how it works, how do I explain that it’s not? Genuinely confused, help
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Hm I would advise that if possible where you live, your bf could seek out an advisor on sexual health. Or inform himself in some way (doctors appointment, official sexual health helplines) cause from what you describe it seems highly unlikely if not impossible that you could give each other STIs.
One other solution could be you both get tested (but it seems like a waste of time and ressources) to get some sort of clarity and if everything is ok and you are faithful to each other it should be fine.
Now if he has some other issues with sex or how he thinks about it…that is another matter. Maybe ask him what makes him so fearful about it and try to have an open discussion. But I suspect he might not know too much about STIs so official information is really important here. Cause you want to have sexual pleasure without fear in the best case. Also afterwards so I hope it can be resolved in his head.
All the best to the both of you and hopefully fear free enjoyment in the future