How to breakup with my (25f) partner (27m) and get over the guilt of knowing I will be taking everything away from him?
Hi, mine and my boyfriend’s relationship needs to come to an end. I have no trust for him, he lies to me constantly about everything. He spends money we don’t have. He is addicted to looking at other women online (and paying for their nudes). He doesn’t work. He has a cannabis habit that I hate.
I am ready to move on. I have lost my love for him. He is miserable all the time and has a short temper. I am tired of coming home to a horrible environment. I am tired of being the only one making money. I hate having sex with him. He annoys me.
He is really depressed. He talks about how he much better everyone would be without him and how much he hates life and how much he struggles.
I want to leave him but he has no where to go other than his parents and they dislike him. He will be miserable there. I can’t give him the house because I am the only tenant on the tenancy and he has no way of paying rent. My Nan is the landlord so I would be screwing over her only source of income other than her pension. He would have to be evicted anyway. He has a son from a previous relationship that lives with us 3 days a week, I would be taking that away from him. We have a 10 month old daughter, I would be taking her away from him half the week if not more. I am 14 weeks pregnant.
I will be fine, I can afford rent and bills, I pay it all anyway. I would be so much happier. I know I would be sad a lot because I really wanted the rest of our lives together but he is just not the person I want to spend my life with anymore. I know this is the best thing to do for mine and my children’s future.
I don’t know how to do it. How do I rip a suicidal man’s whole life away from him so that I can be happy? I just can’t bring myself to do it. I hate this situation. I am his only support system. I don’t want to hurt him but I don’t want to waste my life with a waster. I don’t want to ruin my children’s childhood.