Hello everyone, I hope you’re doing well. I really don’t know how to handle these emotions; I try not to overthink every day, but deep down, it hurts a bit.
I met a boy during my last year of high school; we were both 17. He had a crush on me (I didn’t know at the time), and he was and still is the perfect guy in my eyes—shy, very kind, emotional, always there to listen, and we had deep, lengthy discussions about everything.
I really felt connected at him, even tho we were just friends.
We started dating in 2022, and he remained the same, sharing things with me that he wouldn’t tell anyone else, discussing his actions concerning the future, and more.
Unfortunately, we went through a very tough period where we almost broke up, and our story, our relationship, lost a lot, and we were no longer the same.
After exchangingl letters, we managed to overcome that phase. We spend quality time together, playing a lot and watching anime. In general, my time with him is perfect, just like before.
However, there’s a side of him that I miss a lot, the time when he used to be super emotional with me, sharing things and genuinely helping me when I wasn’t doing well.
Now, most of the time when I tell him something, for example, a few minutes ago when I mentioned that I couldn’t sleep well due to overthinking about my future, he just said, “Sorry, that must be tough.”
It seems like he wouldn’t have just said that before. I’m not suggesting he’s like this all the time; there are plenty of moments when he listens and helps. However, those specific moments frustrate me, especially considering that when he just had a crush on me, there was never a time when he wouldn’t listen. It was even more complicated back then, as we were just friends, and he wanted more. This continued during the first year of our relationship. But now. I just dont know what to think about this anymore.
I want him but i feel like i want the past him? Im really lost and i dont know what to feel.
I love him a lot, i dont want to lost him for nothing, because he’s really great, but when those moments happen i cant help but miss the past, miss the affection and the attention.
I really dont know what to do sometimes i overthink and feel he dosent love me anymore, sometimes i feel insecure asf.
I hope people who were in this situation will help me. Thank you so much.
TL;DR : i dont feel connected to my bf sometimes and i dont know how to manage my emotions to keep a healthy relationship. What can i do?