Last week husband got into a rage and pushed me and smacked me in the face because I wouldn’t “stop talking disrespectfully”. I wasn’t cursing at him or throwing ugly words just expressing my frustration with how he was talking to me. I pushed him away from me twice after and he threw me to the ground. I called the police shortly after. He left so they didn’t arrest him and I did not press charges, however he is angry I would do that to him. I’ve told him if he were to ever get physical with me I’m getting the police involved so he knows better. Yet he believes I shouldn’t be with someone I don’t feel safe with and have to call the police on. He’s right.
He’s been extremely depressed for the past couple of months and this behavior isn’t like the man I know so I want to give him grace. But him making it look like I’m the problem for getting police involved is driving me mad. For context he is African American and calling the police in that culture is looked at as a huge no no. Looking for advice on how to handle this.