I’m (29/f) the type of woman who actually needs to be physically attracted to her partner. I know most women are not set up this way and it’s been a struggle to find a way to date that doesn’t put me in an uncomfortable position with someone.
If a guy comes up to me, cold approach, all I have to go on is physical attraction and what I feel in that moment. And usually I’m saying no.
I don’t believe in giving someone a chance just because they want me. That’s not fair to me because there are plenty of men who won’t give me a chance even if I want it. It has to be a mutual interest.
One way I thought I could change this was becoming friends with guys who are interested in me and using 3-6 months to build a friendship and during this time, allow physical attraction to build without the pressure of dates or being intimate.
Just to clarify, I don’t need to use this method for someone I share a mutual interest in. This is to allow me to grow feelings in a safe way without feeling pressured to be more than friends.