My gf went to a magic mike strip show while abroad. She told me it was her other friend with her who wanted to go and was forcing her hand. I told her I was uncomfortable with it but understood the situation with her friend (more background I won’t get into) and was okay with it given the context. However I said that any touching or lap dances were way beyond what I was comfortable with.
They went to the show, the dancers came up around the whole audience, gave lap dances, danced with them, and had all the girls on the audience touch them (incl my gf).
The show ended, and my gf and friend loved the show so much that they went back a second time that night, knowing it involved lap dances and the touching that I clearly told her was a hard boundary for me.
I learned of this and we had a big fight were she said it was just a show but I feel that regardless it’s inappropriate for my girlfriend to be in a situation where basically naked men are dancing for and with her.
I was already uncomfortable with it but I feel betrayed that she engaged with the touching side of things and then went back for seconds knowing it involved everything I said I wasnt comfortable with. She also got extremely drunk over the course of these shows to the point where she spent the whole night after the show and the next day throwing up.
Am I over reacting? Is it “just a show”? I feel like regardless of it being a show, it’s sexual, I wouldn’t go to a strip show or even have an interest in going while on a relationship (maybe even ever). I’m caught up in my feelings and just want to hear others opinions