If you were at something where you don’t know anyone, how do you pick who to initiate conversations with?
I find that with every event or thing I go to, I always have to be the one starting conversations, or else everyone will just leave me standing there being awkward. But I find with other people, who are equally quiet as me, and are standing or sitting by themselves, people will go up to them, introduce themselves and start a conversation. I notice that these people don’t necessarily do the things recommended to seem friendly – like smiling, making eye contact. I try to do that but people will literally ignore me and go talk to them. What is the difference between I and these people (who are both quiet and standing alone) which makes people gravitate to them more?