I lost my job a few months ago and couldn’t for the life of me get another one. Though I went to countless interviews. Me not having a job for months caused my bank account to go into the negative (still had bills to pay) and my account ended up getting closed because I couldn’t pay it back. With my bank account closed, I needed to cash a check ASAP and for some reason Walmart never lets me cash checks there. So, boyfriend suggests to get a joint account at his bank temporarily so I can cash the check. So I did. I now have a job again and haven’t gotten around to opening my own account so my money goes into that shared account. He has access through the app of my account and his, I have the app too but I cannot see his account only mine. It didn’t bother me because I didn’t want to or need to look at his account. Anyways, I have a good amount of cash in that account which wouldn’t be easy to notice for money taken out. I look at my bank account to see how much I want to spend because we decided to go to the mall I noticed 200+ transferred into his account, he’s driving the car. I ask him if he transferred money into his account, he says he doesn’t think so but we’re stopping at a gas station anyways so we can just check his account. We pull into the gas station and he says he can’t lie to me and that yes he did it. I’m at a loss for words because he’s literally the best boyfriend I have ever had. No cheating scandals, no lying, we’re very open and honest good communication everything checks out. But the reality is he still did it. He said he was being selfish but couldn’t bring himself to spend it because he felt horrible, he then explains to me he’s late on rent and he should have just asked. I go on this tangent about trust ect. He listens to me and understands. I ask him what would he do if I did that to him, he says he would just tell me to never do it again and he would forgive me although it was bad enough if I didn’t spend the stolen money then it would be “okay”. I don’t know if that part was just gaslighting but I do feel he was honest. For now we are still together, I’m getting my own account Monday. I just do not know what to do or think anymore.
-forgot to add we have been together for a little over a year.
EDIT- to add after he told me and apologized, he did give the money back immediately.
TL;DR My boyfriend took 200+ out of a joined bank account which is used as my account that ONLY I put money into.