So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 6 years. I had my daughter in my previous relationship when I was in my late teens. I gotten with my current boyfriend when I was 20yrs old. He has been around since she just turned one. Well over the course of time we had two boys. My daughter calls him dad and loves him and etc. bc in her eyes that’s all she knows is him being there and loves him. Like she doesn’t see the barrier nor gets it yet, yk? She also calls his mom grandma and etc. she shows interest and wants for the boys and goes out of her way for them. She has went out of her way to do the boys birthday party and help with it. If she doesn’t reciprocate the same effort for my daughter should I be upset? My daughter’s birthday is coming up next month. I personally feel like my daughter is family atp and doesn’t need to prove her worth or spot. I don’t want to say anything about her bday bc well i shouldn’t have too, if i have to remind her about her birthday and celebrating it then the problem is already there tbh. I just don’t want my daughter coming up asking me why is grandma treating her differently than the boys? Why isn’t she worthy of the same thing? If she doesn’t reciprocate the same love and respect for my daughter I feel like I should cut her off. Or the relationship my kids are big dealbreaker for me and for any of them not to get treated the same is something really big for me. Not to mention she treats my kids differently than the rest of her other grandkids.