Title says it all.
We have ended up in several conversations (for whatever reason) where the question of attraction comes up. He knows that I don’t like it when he says that there are plenty of people (who look nothing like me) that he finds more attractive than me.
Please understand that I don’t think that attraction to others disappears in a relationship. I know it’s normal and healthy, whatever. What bothers me is that I **really don’t need to know**.
I’ve asked him to stop advertising how much he is attracted to specific types of people (who again, look nothing like me) in front of me because it hurts my feelings. He is hitting me with a “it’s just who I am, and I’d rather be honest”.
I told him I appreciate his honesty but it **honestly** hurts my feelings to know that I am not his first choice appearance-wise.
Again, I don’t need to fool myself into thinking I am the most attractive person in the world – but I’d rather be with someone who thinks I am attractive af and not second-tier compared to their preferred “type”.
He tries to console me by saying he loves our relationship and therefore I am his first choice in that regard. I still don’t want to know about how much he’d rather sleep with other people.
I am really angry because he refuses to apologize because he doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong. He won’t listen when I tell him that being attracted to other people isn’t what I am mad about – I am mad that he keeps telling me about this… when I am his girlfriend.
He seems unwilling to change and I don’t know if this is worth breaking up over. I can’t forgive someone who isn’t sorry.
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**tl;dr**: Boyfriend refuses to stop telling me that I am not his “type”. It makes me feel inferior and I’d rather be with someone who thinks I’m the whole package. I don’t need him to stop being attracted to other people, but I’ve asked him to stop repeating this information to me because it makes me feel terrible. He says he is just being honest and explicitly refuses to stop repeating this information because it’s somehow “dishonest”. I am upset that he has hurt me, he is angry at me because I am not “accepting him for who he is”. Do we break up?