I apologize in advance for formatting, spelling, and grammar problems in advance, writing has been a weak point for me and I’m on mobile.
I (26M) and my fiancé (23F) are struggling with how to talk to my (49F) mother.
My mom has always been more of a self centered person. For example the straw the bike my parents marriage was her cheating on my dad. When it came to mine and my fiancé engagement party, we want a small gathering of family (parents, siblings and there spouses,). When we told her about what we wanted she had asked if she could bring a friend because she would be the only adult there that didn’t have a spouse. The person who she wanted to invite was a man that I had herd he talk about but never meet. We had politely asked he not attend and it blew up into a big argument. She felt it was unfair and that she had no one there. ( my dad has reminded and I they had my little sister) for the next few week she would drop little guilt trips trying to get us to cave and let her bring her friend. Ultimately when the party came she could come because of her building flooding. ( we don’t hold the flood against her because emergency do happen)
My mom called me up last night asking for help. She has not had car insurance on her truck for the last 1.5 years. Her reason is because she is opening a new branch of her business and couldn’t afford it anymore. I tried talking to her about it before her policy ran out but she just tells me to mind my own business. She never tells me about anything that is going wrong in her life and never lets me help. Her and I have different views on personal finances and because of this she will almost always go to my brother for help and not me. ( I am more of a Dave Ramsey person and she believes debt is a way of life.)
She called me up last night and told me that she is trying to sell the truck but can’t get plates and tags without proof of insurance. She want to have it on there for a mouth to get the tags so then she could sell it. What she fails to tell me until this morning is that she is going on a long road trip this weekend. I have already added the truck onto my policy. I feel like she has lied to me I don’t know how to talk to her because it’s going to be a fight. If she has the money for this trip then why can she use that money to pay for her own insurance.
I feel like if I let her go on this trip with my insurance I would be enabling her mismanaging of her personal finances and put my own insurance at risk if she get into a reck. My fiancé is also stressed out about this and is worried that this will bite us in the future.
Any advice would be so helpful. Thank you all in advance.
TLDR: my mom lied to me and I don’t know how to talk to her.