My boyfriend (M23) is a lot less experienced than myself (F23); I was his first. I, on the other hand, have had multiple partners in the past and have been able to experiment beyond standard sex and found things that I like. I like a lot rougher, kinkier sex every now and then but my boyfriend likes to keep things very vanilla. Because he is still so new to sex I haven’t been bringing up what I really want in the bedroom because I don’t want to freak him out. I have casually mentioned some things but he hasn’t really shown an interest in trying. Tbh it seems to make him nervous whenever I mention trying something other than missionary or doggy so I stopped bringing things up.
I am now at a spot where nearly 2 years in and I’m still at a place where I’m not getting fully pleasured. I love him so much but I have found myself watching more and more porn as well as fantasizing about others (not necessarily real people, more like celebrities/athletes, etc.) to get fulfillment. How do I respect his boundaries and not push him too far but also get across that I really really REALLY want to switch up sex occasionally? How do we move forward productively?