I, 23F, have been dating my boyfriend, 25M, for the last five years. Verbal, positive affirmation is incredibly important to me, it’s been made very clear to him for the entirety of our relationship. No matter what I say or how I ask, he can’t be my champion or my biggest supporter in the way I need him to be, although I don’t think he has malicious intentions. He just doesn’t get it. I thought for a long time he was my forever, but in the last few months, I’ve just had this nagging feeling that he isn’t my champion. In the past, when I have brought it up, he tells me he is just different than I am. Am I being unreasonable? Is this a legitimate reason to blow up my life and everything I thought my future would be? I moved across the country not too long ago and left everything I knew behind to end our long distance relationship and be closer to one another. Now that I’m here, it’s just….I don’t know what to do.
TL;DR: How do you know it’s ACTUALLY time to leave the person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with? I would hate to act on how I feel and regret it in the long run.