I’m a 30F and I feel like over time I’ve gotten a lot less enthusiastic about sex and lazy in bed. I’m ashamed to say I’ve started to starfish because my efforts (nibbling, neck kissing, bum cupping) never really seem to inspire any positive reactions so I just don’t do it anymore. I think I’ve been exposed to some terrible sex as well that’s sort of had me just lying there in shock.
Before January i hadn’t slept with anyone in nearly 2 years so I think I’m pretty out of practice. But I’ve met someone casually and IF we have sex I’d like to not starfish, so any ideas would be appreciated. What do I do instead of just lying there?