Hi,
I (27m) have been in a relationship with my partner (27f) for four years now. A new girl started in my office recently. At first I noticed her and thought she was cute, but thought nothing more of it. I’ve spoken to her a few times, just about work related things.
Lately however I’ve noticed myself starting to think more and more about her, I think I’m becoming a bit obsessed with her. I’ve noticed myself wanting to time my coffee breaks and lunch breaks to increase the chance that I would run into the new girl. This is wrong since I’m already in a relationship, and I’m not looking to do anything with the new girl in that way, at all, and I want this obsession to stop. When I happen to sit next to her at lunch I find myself not wanting to talk to her too much because I don’t want to act on my feelings, and so I focus on the other people around me.
My question is, how can I navigate my feelings so that they subside sooner rather than later? Forcing myself to not think about her doesn’t work, and I have to interact with her on some level since we work in the same office.
TL;DR: In a long term relationship but a bit obsessed with new coworker, want advice on how to curb my feelings for the new coworker so that it doesn’t distract me in my daily life.