My girlf and I started dating in March 2023 and she told me she didn’t have any bf. In July 2023 she suddenly broke up with me and she didn’t tell me any reason, but we patched up again. In October she told me she had a bf and I had to asked her leading questions to confess that he (her ex is married btw, for 3 years) was the reason of our breakup in July and he threatened her that he’ll commit suicide if she didn’t break up with me. I asked her if there was something else she’s hiding and she said no. I was going through her ipad and I got to know she went on trips with her married ex before we started dating. Then she told me, she used to meet her ex for coffee even when we were dating. She had changed cities because of her job, but recently in Feb 2024 she told me that in Aug 2023 her ex came to her workplace without telling her and he picked her up and they went to a shopping mall and she got some groceries and he paid the bill and he dropped her off near her place but didn’t come inside. She is repetitively saying she didn’t want to meet him she doesn’t know why did she do that. And recently she told me the last time she met him in privacy was Feb 2023.
I don’t know what to make out of all this and I am not able to comprehend all this. I tried asking my friends and they asked me to break up. What should I do? What is she doing with all this? What questions should I ask her to make sure?
TL;DR – my gf was/is involved with her married ex and she didn’t tell me anything about her past. What should I do?