I am worried that I’ll never feel sexually comfortable/understood by another woman.

This post will probably be embarrassing for me to write but it’s a fear I’ve had since a recent breakup.

Basically, I [27M] was a virgin until i was with my recent gf [21F], who I met at 26. Being a 26 year old virgin as a guy was a source of deep embarrassment and shame to me but she made me feel okay about it. Even though she was sexually active from a young age (14), she said she loved me and didn’t care that I was inexperienced. She put up with a lot. My complete lack of experience, me finishing way too quickly, me not knowing what the best things to do for her were. I was gradually becoming better at things and getting more confident, and I appreciate so much how patient and understanding she was with me. I suppose it also helped that she said “it’s okay if you’re not the best at sex, you have a big dick and I like that”, which made me laugh and feel more at ease, and also gave me an ego boost (of which I am not used to, no woman has ever complimented my body in any way). And she always preferred being on top, too, so that made it very easy for me, especially since when we went for round 2 (a necessity because of how quickly I came), I was never fully hard but with her on top it was easier.

But now that she left me I feel like I’m back to square one, and I’m so scared of getting intimate with another woman because, even though I do have *some* experience now and the insecurity of being a virgin is no longer there (much to my relief) my problems of lack of skill, early finishing, etc. are still there, and I don’t have the comfort of my ex to help me build up my confidence over time with that. I felt so happy knowing I could take my time in getting better with her, and she would not judge me or get annoyed, but now that’s over, and I don’t want to go through the same deeply embarrassing moments with future partners (e.g., telling them I am not very experienced, telling them I finish quick the first round and only last longer second time, etc). My ex knew all of this and completely accepted it, much to my surprise. She told me “if you ever are insecure or have questions or problems with sex, just tell me and we’ll work it out”, and “don’t worry, in a few months you’ll be great at sex, I’ll help you”. But I’m scared no one else will be like that, and being sexually unimpressive to a woman at my age is terrifying to me because I know it’ll make her want to leave, even if she doesn’t say it.

Well, embarrassing story time is over. Thanks for reading.