So I’ve (M21) come to realize that I’m just bored by “regular” girls and somehow only get into invested relationships with the ones with issues.
I met this girl (F22) at a mall one day and we became friends years ago, talking on and off, getting into some pretty deep stuff. Recently we hung out and it seemed she was making minor advances on me, but I felt very appreciated and listened to, and noticed when I was with her.
I already knew she used to have a drug addiction, and used to strip, and have a bunch of mental illnesses, but I can get past that, but I found out that she committed a violent crime (a serious one). It wasn’t self defence. She did it.
I still like her, like I really do care about her, but it’s also not something I can exactly forget about. It’s making me second guess if I’m being manipulated, or if she actually cares about me. Like she’s getting help and she’s genuinely trying to do better. I just have a little piece of me telling me to steer clear so that I don’t get attacked one day.
The most recent day I had with her was the most fun I’ve had in over a year, she’s just like me but female (personality wise) and she says she trusts me, and she acts super comfortable with me.
How can I tell if I’m being manipulated or if I’m just overthinking?
TLDR: Like girl, girl get mad and commit very bad crime to someone (not me), still like girl, but cautious. Opinion.