So we’ve been married for ten years, both just hit our thirties and we have 3 young children.
I noticed that for the majority of our sexual relationship my wife only kisses me passionately during foreplay.
I on the other do much more. Not only do I kiss her, but I kiss her everywhere, bite her, bury my head in her breasts, make out with them. Play with her nipples, kiss her nipples. Squeeze her in different areas of her body. Play around with her clit, finger her whilst making out. Going down on her, varying my pace. Even recently I told her about riding my face, and she enjoys that too. She has the choice of letting me finish her missionary or doggy too.
However when it comes to me, I don’t get anything really. In the past on a few occasions I’ve hinted and asked for what I’ve wanted her to do to me, but she would only try for a few minutes and then say she’s tired. This is in relation to stroking my penis, oral, riding me.
Another thing is we never do stuff outside of PIV sex. Like I would be willing to just do oral, or finger her, and the same in return, but we’ve never had any fun like that.
Plus I am the HL in the relationship, it’s ok for me to get turned down if she’s not interested. However, if I turn her down, she will be moody about it for a good week.
This realisation has put me off sex for a while and I stopped initiating for about 7 weeks. By the sixth week, she was throwing herself at me. I also wanted her too, the more longer the wait, the better the sex, but I can’t be waiting 6-7 weeks every time.
What’s the best thing to do going forward, we have a busy schedule with the kids and we barely make time for each other. I’ve been telling her we should go out on a date night. She says sure, but repeatedly says that there is no time for it, when I try to schedule.
Lately I’ve been feeling kinda withdrawn from her and just rely on myself to get off secretly. I also use porn or delve into my fantasies, which are about people
I know. It’s wrong but I can’t stop myself from thinking about it.