Fellow women. How do you know if a fellow female is jealous of you. Have you ever had a co-worker who was initially friendly only to have them change their “tune” due to the nagging feeling that maybe the “friend” has become jealous?
If this is the case, what are the tell tale signs for you personally?
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Unless they tell me so, I probably don’t. If someone treats me poorly, then I’ll set boundaries about interacting with them, but I’m not going to sit around wasting my time trying to figure out whether they are acting that way out of jealousy or envy or just because I remind them of a school teacher they hated or whatever.
They told me and then stole from me.
If they seem uninterested in anything that goes well for me, and/or downplays it, immediately tries switching topic, or starts bringing up but:s and if:s.
I don’t brag, as I don’t even particularly like bringing attention to good events in my life; If anything, I’m the one more likely to downplay them. So if I still notice that someone struggles with sharing my rare little moment of contentness or happiness, I know to move on and not to let them steal any more energy from me.
No woman is or ever has been jealous of the type of woman who refers to other women as “females”, because they’ve clearly got so much internalized misogyny going on, and no one should have to deal with that kind of self hatred.
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No idea.
Life is short. I cannot spend much time thinking about whether other people are “jealous“ of me. That’s such juvenile nonsense.
I don’t 🤷♀️ nor do I care. That’s on them.
Jealousy is hard to spot unless someone is actively seeking to take something from you
Most of the time people are either going through their own shit or noticing a behavior in others that makes them less interested in being friends or friendly. I have a woman I work with that I’ve known for a long time, and I have become less friendly with her because she has pretty recently gotten really passive aggressive and cold seemingly out of the blue. I assume it’s something in her personal life, and if she won’t say what it is I won’t ask because it’s not my business, and I’m going to give her space because she is acting like she wants it. That’s the only example I can think of related to this post, as far as a woman acting differently at work.
I’ve never heard a woman use the word female in the way your using it. That combined with saying “fellow women” makes me think your a man pretending to be a woman.
Usually it wouldn’t be a friend but an acquaintance, and I notice if she’s trying to put me down in front of others or changes how she acts in front of other people, more likely than not other men. These sorts of girls I don’t really allow in my life anymore as I’ve gotten older.