My friends schedule finally lines up on a Friday and they wanted to go clubbing. Me and my boyfriend have previously had issues regarding clubs. He never liked me going to clubs and although I don’t mind if he goes as long as he’s respectful of our relationship he doesn’t want me going.
I invited him to come with us to the club due to his request of neither of us going to a club if one of us isn’t present. So the plan was set for this Friday but he received news that they are celebrating one of his family member’s birthday on the same day. He told me if I was going with him. In which I was hesitant since it’s been about half a year since we all got together. We all have schooling and work and other priorities.
He’s kind of making me pick and I tried expressing how I was really looking forward to seeing them and it’s been something we’ve been planning for about 2 weeks. He asked if we can do the following day but I explained that one if my friend works at a pharmacy and she usually works until 11pm.
As of now, he’s making me pick between them and im having a hard time because I love all of them. I’ve never given him a reason to doubt my loyalty. He has access to all of my things and i’m honest about what I do or where I go.
I’m careful with my drinking in case I have to take care of anyone and even when I was single I didnt have an interest in talking to men (i thought i was asexual). I just miss seeing my friends doing stupid stuff and us dancing and making friends with random girls. Not to mention, 3 out of 5 of us are in long term relationships and it seems as if i’m the only one having issues regarding this.
Is it really wrong to want to spend one night out with my friends? How else can I communicate with him about this as he usually gets upset? Can anyone share their personal experience? Any advice would be great, thank you.