I work in a male dominated environment and I’ve been at the same company for 2.5 years now. I met my current boyfriend (33M) at a training for that company 2 years ago but he changed jobs. He is sweet and he’s different from me, I didn’t know his family was wealthy. I feel comfortable with him but he’s my first boyfriend I’ve had since middle school. He doesn’t have patience for shopping or some of the emotions that I sometimes bring. We do everything 50/50 and he has helped me with confidence. I love him because he cares for me but he doesn’t want kids and he puts a quick stop to a few of my ideas. I feel like I changed him a lot because he was never the type to settle down and now he thinks a lot before making life changing decisions since I’m around.
There was a new employee I met 1 year ago and he is super funny and outgoing. He has confided in me since the moment we met. He seems to really like the way I do things at work and I find myself constantly seeking his presence and validation. We hung out for the first time outside of work one week ago and I was blown away by his attention to details and the way he put my needs before anything else. I haven’t stopped thinking about it since. I feel like he does like me more than a friend but I could be wrong. I would be interested in seeing how things work in the future but he is middle-class like me. For some reason he shows more emotions and gives more than my boyfriend does.
Has anyone ever fallen for a guy/girl while in a relationship? I would like to mention none of us have slept around with anyone while in a relationship. I feel selfish for liking the attention from my guy friend but I never expected to kick off like that with someone. I don’t see myself leaving my boyfriend for a little fantasy but it’s something that still lingers in my head.
TL;DR I (28F) am dating (33M) and I feel like I am falling for my single work friend (34M) after going out with him to eat and watch a movie.