So, I’ve always sort of been of the opinion that people just say that when they aren’t really that interested in someone. I’ve even had it happen before, a girl I liked told me she was into me, but wasn’t ready for a relationship. I accepted that and waited for her to be ready, then before long she let me know that she’d started talking to someone and they might date. Eventually I just realised that she probably wasn’t all that interested in the first place.
Now, recently I’ve become very close friends with a girl I know. We’ve only known each other for like 2 months, but we became very close very quickly. I was dead set that we’d just stay friends because we’ve both got so much going on right now. But the other night we got drunk, kissed, and confessed that we really liked each other. I expressed that it was probably a bad idea, and she was like “I don’t care if it’s a bad idea, I want to be with you.”
The next day she sent me a text telling me that she meant what she said, but she doesn’t feel like it’s a good idea to get into anything right now. She said she “doesn’t want to completely shut anything down”, and she “definitely isn’t saying never”, but doesn’t think it’s a good idea right now. And I largely agree, we’re both fresh out of relationships, we both need somewhere to live so we’ve been talking about house sharing, and she only got out of hospital 2 weeks ago. So it’s not good timing.
But… I kinda feel like if you genuinely like someone, you don’t really want to wait around. Like even though I agreed and said we shouldn’t jump into anything, I know if she turned around and said “fuck it let’s do it” sober, I’d say yes. It just confuses me because it was *her* who was fighting for it the other night. It feels a bit like whiplash.
I guess my question is, have you ever genuinely really liked someone, and still held off on dating them because you weren’t ready?