So pretty much me (20f) and my boyfriend (23m) have been together for a year. I’m very happy with him and do love him. There’s just one thing that’s really been frustrating me lately and makes me overthink a lot and wonder if this situation will persist.
So lately maybe since December when him and I will go out somewhere or have a day for ourselves half way through my boyfriend will start to get a little annoyed or irritated with himself mostly due to his anxiety or if he makes a simple mistake. I do my best to be there for him during this time (keep in mind he does suspect he may have a mental disorder and he wants to look into therapy, I told him I’ll do the same) but then the more it persists it’ll start to rub off on me and then tension builds, he feels even shittier because now I feel bad and now the whole day has turned sour. Today we were supposed to go to the fair, which we’ve really been wanting to go considering weve mostly been in work mode plus fair’s are really fucking cool so I was really looking forward to this today and being able to take our minds off of our every day life and just have fun :/ but after I got out of the shower and had gotten ready I sat with him and it seemed he was just in a really bad mood. I asked him what was wrong and he told me he couldn’t put his finger on it. I might’ve been wrong here but I honestly just said “if you don’t feel good I don’t think we should go” I keep thinking maybe I shouldn’t have said that, maybe we should’ve went anyway but i felt like if we did he would just feel worse and the same things that’s been happening recently will just happen again. He finally told me for some reason when he’s not occupied with his work he just feels really bad. The tension increased and then he just ended up falling asleep. There’s still time to go but I know at this point we’re not. He’s been asleep since 3 and just moved to the room so I’ve just been trying to occupy myself with sims and just typing this really, otherwise I’d break down.
I love going on cute little dates with him but when I know something like this can and most likely will happen it makes me not want to anymore.
So pretty much I don’t know what we should do, or what I should do rather. I feel like it may be due to what he believes is a disorder but at the same time I feel like shit automatically going to that and just hoping once we both start therapy things will be different, perhaps they won’t? Is there a way we can tackle this on our own? What do you all think?
TLDR: since December every time my boyfriend and I go out somewhere he starts to feel bad then me too and it makes the whole day bad. What should we do?