I’m a single mum to my 4 year old son, I’ve been single and celibate since my son’s father.. so NO sexual contact at all, but I finally am getting back on track with life and managed to get myself a job, at work one day this guy comes in to pick up and order for someone and he ended up asked me out, this is the first time I’ve let my guard down for anyone in FIVE YEARS, he was so charming, we became inseparable. He picks me up everyday, drops me to work, he’s there for for all my wants and needs, I’ve never had this before.. it was like a dream come true, he told me loved me the FIRST NIGHT we slept together and it solidified everything between us, baring in mind we have been dating for 5 months and this is the FIRST & ONLY time we had sex.. now let’s go to today this he has called me and Told me he has 2 STDS. He knows it’s from his last partner. But my thing is, is I asked him if he’s clean and when was he tested last and he said he is CLEAN. I know it’s not me as he got tested a week before we had sex but my problem is, is that he got tested on Monday we had sex On Friday, beforeeee he got his results back. My question is, is WHY THE HECK WOULD YOU SLEEP WOTH SOMEONE BEFORE YOU GET YOUR RESULTS BACK!!!! he could have waited a few more days, got it sorted out then told me.
I FEEL SOOOO VIOLATED IVE NOT GIVEN ANYONE MY BODY IN 5 BLINKING YEARS AND THE FIRST & ONLY TIME I HAVE SEX WITH HIM HE GIVES ME 2 STDS, AND WHAT MAKES ME MORE ANGRY IS THAT THIS COULD HAVE BEEN PRAVENTED IF HE JUST WAITED A WEEK FOR HIS RESULTS!
I’ve literally fallen for this guy, we’re both on the same paths in life, I’ve never been happier but this has set me ALLLLLLL THE WAYYY BACKKKKK. I told him that I can’t talk to him right now and I need too process everything. I just feel disgusting. I’ve had 4 showers as it’s the weekend and I have to wait until Monday for an appointment.
What do I do guys. My heart tells me to stay but my gut is telling me to leave.
Please help
UPDATE 1: he’s shown me the results, it’s “Chlamydia & Gonorrhoea ” It’s Not HIV.
since I found out he’s messaged me 4 times saying “ I’m so sorry” I’ve ignored it, he then messaged again “hello” I replied “yes?” He still hasn’t responded. That’s literally it so far. It’s been hours..
I have to wait until Monday to go and get tested then I’ll give you another update.
Right now my heart is just hurting.. I have lots of questions for him, but at this point I just want to go get myself treated it’s really hard when feelings are involved.