My (18f) bf (20m) has an ex (19f) let’s call her Kayla, my bf refuses to block Kayla. He ghosted her in April 2023 and started dating me the same month, they chatted a bit in September, he unadded her a few days ago, then last night she added him first, and they exchanged messages. I kind of argued about my discomfort with this in a groupchat and our friends told him to block Kayla as I’m clearly not comfortable with him contacting Kayla. He uses excuses such as “I don’t block anyone” “I’ll just ghost her i don’t care about her.” It really annoys me since he made me block a guy who had feelings for me and he has access to all my socials while he won’t block Kayla who has feelings for him (in my opinion) and doesn’t give me access to his socials, only 1 of them.
Mind you, Kayla has a boyfriend currently and she gave oral to a guy after my boyfriend ghosted her and let him know when they chatted in September and told him he’s the only one who knows about her giving oral. He often calls me immature and accuses me of starting arguments. At this point I’d rather him leave me and let me live my life if he’s going to stress me out with this. What to do?
TL;DR: Boyfriend won’t block ex despite my discomfort, while he made me block someone with feelings for me. He has access to all my socials but won’t block her. She’s in a relationship but has shared intimate details with him.