My (28F) husband (26M) and I got married just over a year ago. He has shortcomings but he really is a walking green flag, or so I thought. If there’s one thing that has been bothering me in our relationship is yung GBF nya. They went to the same school sa college and they were very close. Si girl talaga ang una ko naging friend, she introduced my husband to me and that’s where it all started. Because their level of closeness has been bothering me, to be fair kay hubby he tried to distance himself sa girl, pero si girl ay either nananadya or wala lang talaga respeto. They work together, and si girl nagagalit pag di sinabayan ni hubby mag lunch. Ako I eat alone most of the time, and that’s ok for me. We have work and we have separate lives to live parin even married na. Si ate GBF feeling asawa. Nagpapa hatid and sundo and pag nag decline si hubby, nagagalit. Nagpapabili ng kung ano ano, etc. I also observed she has distanced herself from since then.
So eto na nga ang title. Our endearment is langga, but last night while half asleep he called me baby. This is the second time, the first time parang naging joke and passing lang so I brushed it off. Last night, talagang he called me baby and parang nagising siya suddenly so he abruptly stopped and said “langga”. I confronted him about it but he said namali lang daw ako ng dinig and went back to sleep. I took his phone from his bedside table, he did not react but he was obviously uncomfortable. I’ve always respected his privacy. 5 years in a relationship and 1+ married, wala ako access sa accounts nya. I searched the words and sa “Bebe” lumabas past convos nila ni GBF. They used to call each other “be”. This is news to me. I read further and that’s where I learned na they would even “sleep together” – who knows what they’ve been doing. Ang convo would go
GBF: saan ka matutulog?
Hubby: diyan
This was just a few months before my husband and I started dating. Friends na kami ni GBF. She was in a relationship with someone else that time. She is engaged to someone else now.
I froze and my world fell apart. I am so broken and lost. I don’t know what to do or if I even need an advice, I just really want to vent out.
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