A little over a year ago, my boyfriend (M36) moved in with me (F28). In total, we’ve been together for almost 1.5 years. Things were going well until about three months ago when he lost his job due to his place of work experiencing financial difficulties. Consequently, for the past three months, I’ve been solely supporting us. We live in an expensive city and between the rent, food, and other bills, I’ve barely managed to set aside anything or make any headway with my payments. It’s been an incredibly stressful time.
Since losing his job, my boyfriend has spiralled into a deep depression. He struggles to find work and spends most days lost in his thoughts. Also, he hasn’t made much effort to contribute to household chores. Because of this entire shitstorm, I’ve come to the difficult decision that I need to end our relationship. After discussing it with my friends and family, they too believe it’s the most sensible choice. Some of my friends tried to remind me of all the good times, but this just isn’t enough anymore.
I still love him, but the reality of our financial situation has made it impossible for us to continue together. I’m very upset by this outcome, but I believe it’s necessary for both our well-being. By parting ways, I hope to regain some financial stability, while my boyfriend may find opportunities by returning to his parents’ home.
I tried my best to be supportive during this time. I talk to him all the time and give him words of encouragement. I suggested that he speak with a doctor, but he declined that. I offered to go into my savings and pay for a therapist but he’s also declined that. Just having to work and then come home and do all the chores is completely untenable for me now.
I am well aware this situation isn’t ideal for either of us, but there are no other options.
Is there any gentle way I can possibly let him know that we’re done?
Tl;dr Our economic situation has made the relationship between me and my bf impossible. I’ve come to the decision to end our relationship, any information on gentle ways I can do so would be appreciated.