My [26F] friend [26F] have known each other for 10 years. I’ve described her as my best friend, and she’s described me the same way.
There’s this comedian doing a show in my city coming up. He’s someone we’ve talked about a lot, shared jokes, shared clips. I actually think I introduced her to his content, not that it matters really. It’s as clear as a shared interest as you can get to be honest, we are both huge fans.
So as soon as I saw he was coming to our city, I texted her, because I was so excited to go with her, and I knew she’d be so excited too.
Instead she says to me that she’s already going, with other people, she got tickets last week.
It felt like a punch in the gut. There was no invite from her, any indication she’d like me to go with her. She was literally my first thought when I saw he was coming to town, and she didn’t even let me know that he was doing shows.
It just feels like… oh. Okay.
Now I’m staring at the ticket website, wondering how much of a loser it would make me to buy a single ticket to a comedy show, where my best friend is going to be somewhere else in the audience, watching our favourite comedian with other friends.
I feel so silly for being upset (because really, we are both adults, and I usually would not bat an eye at any of my friends not inviting me to things), but I’ve realised this is a pattern. I’ll come across something in my day I’d like to share with her, because it reminds me of her (whether it’s something we could do together, or just stupid video), but it’s so rarely reciprocated.
This was a thing we shared, we talked about, and I did not cross her mind.
I feel so small.
TLDR: I invited my friend to go see our favourite comedian. She’s already going with other people, and I’m not invited.