I’ve been dating for the past year, but am finding myself disappointed by the women I end up in a relationship with after several months.
Most recently I’ve found my current partner is stuck in some limiting patterns which I’m recognizing has been part of her for years. She has stayed in the same town and works a job she doesn’t like, and talks about being in her feminine energy and wanting to prioritize time off and things. But she’s constantly in self doubt about her abilities, gives power to doubt, constantly finds reasons to not do things, and generally is afraid of change. It took a while to discover this.
My last girlfriend was the same.
My ex of 8 years was also the same and was our biggest issue.
I’m successful, earn ~$200k (and growing) as an engineering consultant, have a growing real estate portfolio and a healthcare business. I manage 20 people. I’m in great shape, have no kids, and am a key figure in my family.
Really, anyone going in a similar direction, who wouldn’t hold me back, would be enough.
Is a growth mindset uncommon across the board? Uncommon among women? Or, is there a flaw or some negative pattern in who I’m picking up?