I’m (32/F) so confused. Is there such a thing as being too sexually compatible?
I was seeing a guy for a little over a month and had 2 wonderful dates – dinner and going to a board game house for lunch and games. On our third date, I suggested something low key and relaxing because I had just come back from a trip and he wanted to see me the next day. I invited him over for a movie and snacks, but we didn’t make it past my doorway before we started making out. I was on my period, so we didn’t have sex, but were sexually intimate in other ways and we both felt that the chemistry was really strong. I mentioned here that I enjoyed being intimate with him but wanted him to know that I hope it doesn’t affect us fostering a connection with each other as we both aligned on looking for a LTR in the beginning. We finally had sex on our fourth date and spent the night together. We had a Costco date the next morning, but things felt off the week after.
Long story short, I asked him if we were okay because of what seemed like a drift in our communication. He (31/M) said that our sexual compatibility was so overlapping that it overshadowed slowly building up an emotional connection, and that he felt being physical with me may communicate deeper feelings that aren’t as strongly there. He ended things afterwards, and I respect his boundaries and perspective, but can’t help but to feel confused. I don’t understand when is an appropriate time to be sexually intimate with someone, and how soon is too soon? Is there such a thing as being too sexually compatible?
*EDIT**: Hey all! Currently on a break at work so I won’t be able to respond to everyone’s comments until later, but I just wanted to quickly say thank you all for your insight. ❤️ I’m not feeling as bummed as I thought I’d be. Distracted, yes, but I’m okay. Going to dust myself off and frame things ending as an opportunity to meet someone who *is* right for me!