My bf is amazing we have been dating for five months and things are going greatly. We planned a vacation for June to Europe.
So the month of June my bf and his friend are renting an Airbnb for a month and his friend who was separated from his wife (they have two kids, 5 and 2) well we were supposed to have the last five days of Airbnb of the month to ourselves, as his friend was flying back to the states and now he’s saying his friends reconciled with his ex and may be there last five days with his wife and two young kids…he’s like “they are fun” and there should be enough room etc
But I’m disappointed at this turn of events and don’t think it’ll be fun to be waking up to a crying baby or not be able to have sex freely etc. or have to hang out with them vs do our own thing.
I’d hate to let him down or seem like a Debbie downer for feeling this way, or I’m inflexible etc. I’m a social person, I have gone to meet his friends at parties and all that but don’t want to be “on” for vacation,
What can I say or recommend? When he told me this I just said “oh that’s cool well we can do our own thing too!” He’s like it’s not confirmed what will happen yet if they show or not.
Any ways I can talk to him about this without seeming too selfish or inadaptible? Debbie downer?
3 comments
Cancel the Airbnb and get a bigger one with a suite where you can have privacy.
Did you pay for the place for the last 5 days? If the other family paid for their half of the entire month then it sucks but there’s really not a lot you can do about it. I would recommend renting your own Airbnb for the trip so you can have the privacy and freedom you want!
I would just ask your bf if the two of you can rent an inexpensive hotel room nearby, so you can still hang out with them but can also have some privacy. I would not be happy to go on a trip to Europe and not be able to have sex!