I’ve posted before about my lack of satisfaction with my spouse’s lack of interest in intimacy. We are both working on achieving better balance, but now my wife seems to be feigning interest out of a sense of obligation. Several times recently she has taken control to stimulate me sexually, but it’s extremely one dimensional and physically and emotionally unsatisfying because I sense she isn’t really into or especially enjoying what she’s doing. This is making me feel guilty and dejected. In all honesty, I’d rather masturbate myself than feel like my wife is doing this out of obligation. Should I just try to stop thinking about it and try to maximise my own pleasure somehow, or ask her to stop and only do this if she has a genuine urge and desire to do so?