There have been past instances in our relationship where he has used IG to flirt with people he doesn’t know in his city by commenting hearts on their pictures or following a bunch of university aged girls that he doesn’t know, for reasons I’m not aware of. I pointed out that this was weird and he said I was trying to control what he was able to do online. He’s also had an intense friendship with a girl at his work to the point that they were ending their convos by saying I love you. A different girl at work would ask him to go paddle boarding with her even though she had a bf, and he finally decided a bike ride together would be platonic enough? But then she ended their date by kissing him (according to him)
This was all a year-2 ago and we’ve worked on our issues and I thought we were in a good place. I told him that having me blocked was sketchy given what we went through and his bad track record for appropriate relationships with other women. he said he made this decision for both of us to protect the integrity of our relationship, as Instagram seemed to be a problem for us. I said was Instagram the problem or were you?? And as the person who broke trust, you should be trying to rebuild it. He said he wasn’t open to discussing it and that he wasn’t changing his mind. This all felt like alarm bells to me so I left. I don’t know if I made the right decision. He is saying I left a 9 year partnership over something stupid. I feel so torn but it feels like an infidelity red flag and I cannot go through that again.