Background information: No, I’m not gonna leave my wife cuz she’s making more money than me. I love her to death and we both started from the bottom in retail and got corporate jobs a few years later. She’s making 65k without a college degree while I’m making 45k with a bachelor’s for reference. We are currently both rising stars in our company’s departments just she’s been in her position for two years while I just completed my first year in my position but already got moved to the most sought after team in the whole department that leadership has a lot of focus on.
I am struggling mentally with this concept of if I’m not the breadwinner I’m not a man. My wife is making more money than me and it’s causing me internal conflict. I’m not mad at her any means and I am proud of her for making strides in her career feild but I’m mentally fighting the idea that I’m worthless since I can not be the breadwinner. She is aware of what’s going on in my head and is helping me through this as much as she can. I feel like I’m a robot glitching hard because I’m going against my programming. Has anyone else dealt with this or have any suggestions to break out of this internal conflict?